25 Lessons in Life

Hey everyone! Or myself? No one is reading this anyway. Haha. Well, Happy 25th Birthday to Myself.

Most of what I accomplished in my life so far is related to education. As I reached 25, I decided to focus this time on improving my relationships and finances for the next 20 years. That doesn’t mean I won’t pursue my PhD. It is more of a reminder that there’s so much more to the world than getting degrees. If you know me, then you would also know that I was addicted to getting accolades, to being appreciated as the model student with best paper, blah blah. I’m happy to note, however, that although I still got A’s in my courses here in the US, I realized that I don’t crave that type of glory anymore. It all started when I took my master’s degree when I no longer preferred to be in the limelight. Regardless of that conscious decision, people still viewed me as competitive. Aargh. It seems that the word is plastered on my forehead wherever I go. As I capped off the first 24 years of my life, I’m saying goodbye to that obsessed aggressive attention-seeker authoritarian scary A-student (although I promise I won’t break my record of not getting A- in my entire life) and I’m welcoming the assertive powerful kind abundant student in me.

25 Lessons I learned for the past 24 years? Here they are:

  1. Never doubt yourself. Always believe in your capacity. The moment you doubt yourself is the moment you also fail.
  2. Love yourself. Pamper yourself at times. Before, I always thought of how I can help others without actually noticing that I was burning in the process. Don’t put yourself last, but not to the point of being egotistical and greedy.
  3. Spend time with people especially with family and friends.
  4. Speak up. Be assertive. Don’t be aggressive and bossy in the process.
  5. Save up and invest. Prepare for the future.
  6. In the process, don’t lose the moments, so create memories.
  7. Travel as much as you like as long as you have the budget for it.
  8. Don’t assume that what you think people are thinking is true. Don’t play God.
  9. Empathize with others.
  10. Don’t be needy. Let them go and you will find them coming back to you every time.
  11. Instead of demanding to be right, choose to be kind.
  12. Listen to what people have to stay. Most of the answers I sought came from the most unexpected people.
  13. Always look for ways on how you can develop yourself.
  14. Read. Read.
  15. When you are down, do a random act/s of kindness, and you’ll be reinvigorated.
  16. Sleep at least six hours a day.
  17. Work on a theme every year, instead of listing farfetched resolutions.
  18. Never assume that people hate you because they don’t talk to you. Give them time.
  19. If you can, put up your own business.
  20. Don’t talk shit about people!
  21. If you find yourself failing, ask why. Then look for solutions. Be proactive! Don’t whine!
  22. Admit when you are wrong.
  23. Stop using, “I’m not sure but…”, “I heard that…” instead claim your opinions. “I believe…”, “For me…”
  24. Every week or every day, read your goals and commit them to memory.


And most of all, the most important of all, the one that can increase your grit, give you clarity and hope,

  1. Always connect with God!




About kaylathetheoxenophile

Hi everyone! I’m kayla. This is my first attempt to share my thoughts through blogging. Got lots of exploring to do. Don’t even know where to start and what to say. To start the ball rolling, allow me to share with you some of the fallacies about Kayla Marie Sarte. 1. Writing is just not my line. Although most considered me as a creative writer, I doubt I have that knack. I’m direct to the point. My essays are straight. As long as I get the message across then that’s fair enough for me. 2.I’m not a walking encyclopedia, got that? How funny it is to be asked by some bunch of kiddos bout tons of stuffs I don’t know or even have heard. Worse? They expect me to answer their queries in a snap. Good thing, I can always find the usual “busy” excuse to elude their endless questions. 3. You just don’t know how pain in the ass reading is to me. I always record the days I spend reading and do my best to keep the pace. Yeah, I’m a literature major but it’s uhmm, …. Except for required readings in my literature classes in the class, I haven’t truly deal with literary works personally. Good heavens, I found John Grisham and Dean Koontz – my all time faves. (In my later posts, I’ll be sharing my thoughts bout their books.) 4. One thing I found truly bleak about me is my loved for movies. I don’t like cinematography or even crave like Glenn Ortiz to be the Steven Spielberg of this race. I just enjoy watching movies on the big screen. That’s all. So, it’s a fallacy that I like cinematography… just the movies. 5. Call me braggart, arrogant. Many think so because of the achievements I gained in the past aching yet meaningful 15 education years of my life. What they don’t know is how negative and perturbed, covered with worries, stressed I am most of the time. No matter how great the laurel I get, I always look back at the failurs I’ve been through in the past. So, that goes to mean, I don’t think highly of myself or consider my awards that much. Top 3 things about me: 1. A Theophile 2. A Xenophile 3. Just Kayla Marie B. Sarte That’s all for now. You’ll get to know more about me soon and about the project 2012 that led me to explore blogging. J One thing is certain for me though, I love who I am for I am fashioned the way I fit exactly in a large mosaic we are all in. Be happy. Live life according to God’s will. – Kayla Sarte
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