Hey everyone! Or myself? No one is reading this anyway. Haha. Well, Happy 25th Birthday to Myself.
Most of what I accomplished in my life so far is related to education. As I reached 25, I decided to focus this time on improving my relationships and finances for the next 20 years. That doesn’t mean I won’t pursue my PhD. It is more of a reminder that there’s so much more to the world than getting degrees. If you know me, then you would also know that I was addicted to getting accolades, to being appreciated as the model student with best paper, blah blah. I’m happy to note, however, that although I still got A’s in my courses here in the US, I realized that I don’t crave that type of glory anymore. It all started when I took my master’s degree when I no longer preferred to be in the limelight. Regardless of that conscious decision, people still viewed me as competitive. Aargh. It seems that the word is plastered on my forehead wherever I go. As I capped off the first 24 years of my life, I’m saying goodbye to that obsessed aggressive attention-seeker authoritarian scary A-student (although I promise I won’t break my record of not getting A- in my entire life) and I’m welcoming the assertive powerful kind abundant student in me.
25 Lessons I learned for the past 24 years? Here they are:
- Never doubt yourself. Always believe in your capacity. The moment you doubt yourself is the moment you also fail.
- Love yourself. Pamper yourself at times. Before, I always thought of how I can help others without actually noticing that I was burning in the process. Don’t put yourself last, but not to the point of being egotistical and greedy.
- Spend time with people especially with family and friends.
- Speak up. Be assertive. Don’t be aggressive and bossy in the process.
- Save up and invest. Prepare for the future.
- In the process, don’t lose the moments, so create memories.
- Travel as much as you like as long as you have the budget for it.
- Don’t assume that what you think people are thinking is true. Don’t play God.
- Empathize with others.
- Don’t be needy. Let them go and you will find them coming back to you every time.
- Instead of demanding to be right, choose to be kind.
- Listen to what people have to stay. Most of the answers I sought came from the most unexpected people.
- Always look for ways on how you can develop yourself.
- Read. Read.
- When you are down, do a random act/s of kindness, and you’ll be reinvigorated.
- Sleep at least six hours a day.
- Work on a theme every year, instead of listing farfetched resolutions.
- Never assume that people hate you because they don’t talk to you. Give them time.
- If you can, put up your own business.
- Don’t talk shit about people!
- If you find yourself failing, ask why. Then look for solutions. Be proactive! Don’t whine!
- Admit when you are wrong.
- Stop using, “I’m not sure but…”, “I heard that…” instead claim your opinions. “I believe…”, “For me…”
- Every week or every day, read your goals and commit them to memory.
And most of all, the most important of all, the one that can increase your grit, give you clarity and hope,
- Always connect with God!